Warning: If you are not married, don’t read this as it addresses a topic for married folk only. Seriously, I’m not saying this to tempt you. Browse the rest of the site as you wish, but single men/women and especially young eyes, this post is not for you.
There’s always some book out there that’s all the rage in women’s circles. Usually, the books are self-help or all about improving something in our lives. What’s the current craze book all about? Sex. The book – Forty Beads: The Simple Sexy Secret to Transforming Your Marriage.
This is more than a book. It’s a method. A sisterhood. They even have workshops and parties.
If the author’s statistics are true and 15-20% of US married couples have sex less than 10 times per year, we need all the help we can get to bring sex back into marriage.
So how does it work? From what I can gather from the website, the husband has 40 beads and the wife has a bowl by the bed. When the husband desires sex, he places a bead into the bowl. At that point, the wife has 24 hours to prepare for or pursue sex.
Without having read the book, I can see some positive aspects to this approach for those struggling with sexual intimacy. The husband feels free to express his desire for sex. The wife does not feel the pressure to have sex the moment her husband initiates.
I know sex is always an important and often difficult aspect of a marriage. It has definitely been a good thermometer of Casey and I’s emotional connection. However, I don’t believe 40 beads alone could ever transform your marriage.
You can bet I’m going to add the book to my reading list though. I’ll check back in after that. Anyone out there read it and have a success story?