Opportunity to Connect with Other Wives

Over the last 3 years, my pastor’s wife has become like a second mom to me. What’s one more kid when you already have 10 of your own, right? The truth is that Robyn’s 10 kids are just a small piece of all the people that Robyn has had a chance to “mother.”


The McKelvy Family

There’s a lot about being a Christian wife and mother that I didn’t learn growing up. I don’t know that I would have listened had my mom talked to me about it though.  Now that I’m a wife, I realize how much guidance I need and I’m all ears, but I often find it difficult to find women that are willing to give valuable, truthful advice. After years of seeking guidance from older women only to wind up empty, I’ve realized how blessed  I am to have Robyn and so many other fabulous women in my life. Many of these women, like Robyn, are walking examples of the woman God describes in Titus.

Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled. – Titus 2: 3-5

God calls us as women, specifically “more seasoned” women, to pour into the lives of younger women – encourage, teach and challenge them. I truly believe in the value of pouring out and being poured into, especially as wives. We were not meant to go through life alone, and we definitely weren’t meant to go through our marriages alone. It’s easy to lose community, but with some effort, we can find transparent community where we are filled up and pour out.

To help connect women from different walks of life in my area, I started a gathering called Wives Connection Night. It’s nothing special or extravagant, just wives of all ages getting together to talk openly and honestly about marriage. It’s really a time to unwind, connect and encourage one another in our marriages. In an effort to keep the conversation going outside of Wives Night, I recently created a group on Facebook. If you want to connect with other wives, I encourage you to join the new Wives Connection group on Facebook, no matter where you live.

If you’re in the Middle Tennessee area, I’d love for you to come to Wives Night this Saturday. Just email me, Facebook me, or let me know in the comments if you want to join us. There’s new faces every time so we’d love to have you! Not in Middle Tennessee? I’d love to help you get a Wives Connection Night started in your town. If you think that’s something you might be interested in, please email me shana (dot) bresnahan (at) gmail (dot) com

Do you have a mentor relationship with another wife? I’d love for you to tell us about it in the comments.

  • Robyn

    From the older women: It is our pleasure to be able to be a part of the lives of women who desire to put God first, no matter what. I am proud to know you, Shanna and be able to live life with you, for such a time as this.
    The Lord bless and keep you, make His face shine upon you…and give you peace.
    My prayer for you.

    Love, Robyn

  • Sara Sherrell

    I met a woman named Carrie who is a blessing to me. She has gotten much busier though, so I would love to have more Titus 2 women in my life.

    • http://www.BeEngaging.com/ Shana Bresnahan

      Sara – If you have just one Titus 2 woman, although busy, you are doing better than most women. Maybe Carrie can help connect you with more women. I’m thankful that God brought Carrie to you!