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The Wednesday Wife: Kelly Bailey

January 29, 2014 By: Shana1 Comment

I am so glad that I get to share my sweet friend, Kelly’s, marriage story with you all. So often my blog has been full of the ups and downs that Casey and I have endured throughout our marriage, but I want you to know that not every couple endures such hardships within marriage.

Kelly and Nate’s marriage is beautiful picture of a marriage that just works, and God knew what He was doing. But even still, there’s much to learn and no one would say their marriage is “perfect.” They needed a strong marriage to endure some of the trials they’ve had to face together. Just another picture of how every path in life is uniquely designed and there is not one greater than another. 

She doesn’t talk about it much, but Kelly is an incredible artist. From graphic design to portraits that will seriously blow your mind and melt your heart, you want to see what she does with this awesome gift God gave her. Take a look at The Artist of Life. 

Please remember that when we share like this we are leaving ourselves vulnerable. This is our chance to love on Kelly. Please make sure to leave a comment thanking her for sharing or letting her know how her story has encouraged or comforted you.

Kelly Bailey married her husband, Nate, on October 26, 2008.

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1)    Tell us your courtship story. How did you meet and end up married?

Nate and I had heard of each other by name from mutual friends, but didn’t meet in person until Inversion (a young adult group at Fellowship Bible Church) had an outing: The Amazing Race.  We weren’t paired on the same team, but I remember seeing him and hearing his name, thinking “So THAT’S the all-famous Nate I keep hearing about!”  This was in July of 2006.

Over the next few months, we saw each other in group settings and then realized that we worked out at the same gym and lived literally within walking distance of each other.  He knew a bit about training and I knew nothing, so he offered to work out with me.  (He claims that he had no interest in me at the time, and he’s sticking with that story.)  I thought he was great, but didn’t have googly eyes for him or anything.  He was so kind to everyone, I couldn’t tell if he treated me any differently.

In November, Nate had tickets to a music event and my roommate tried to set him up with a friend of hers from Belmont to go with him.  She agreed to go, but not before I realized that I didn’t want him to meet anyone “special.”  Conveniently, something came up and she was unable to go after all, and Nate ended up asking me to go.  I suppose it was our first date.  In the months following, we hung out more and he eventually held my hand and kissed me.  I actually felt my heart skip a few beats and I had trouble breathing: those things you read about or see in a movie, but they actually happened to me. 

How did he go from being just some nice guy to being someone who could stop my heart with his touch? 

A few months later, on Easter in 2007, I met all of his family and knew that one day, they would be my family.  He was slower deciding about me, but eventually he realized we were made for each other.  Ha 🙂  We dated over the course of a year and 8 months before he proposed on stage at the Williamson County Fair where I was getting recognition on winning Best of Show for one of my paintings.  We got married 10 weeks later in Franklin, TN on the most beautiful day of my life.

2)    On your wedding day if someone had asked why you were getting married, what would you have said?

Someone did ask me this question before the wedding, and I responded, “I can’t wait to ‘do life’ with Nate. He’s my best friend and my world would not be as full without him in it.”

3)    If someone asked you today why you have stayed married, what would you say?

Splitting up has never been an option for us.  From the beginning, we made the commitment to stay together through any trials and hardships that come up. Knowing that there was no easy way out, we have communicated with each other differently than some with an “escape route” might.  We bring things up that need to be worked through before they fester and cause issues – usually within the hour, but definitely within the day.  Nate is particularly good at seeking out resolution to a potential problem and addressing it.  He senses when I’m not myself and makes sure if there is anything he can do to make it better. In the rare event that it’s something involving him, we have a mature, two-sided discussion and move on. He makes me feel safe.

4)    Do you have children? If so, how has having children affected your marriage?

We have two children, ages 3 and 15 months.  There are definite changes that happened in our marriage after having children, but they are mostly good.  For instance, seeing Nate with his kids loving on them and delighting in them only deepens my own affection toward him.  I see things in my kids that are so like their daddy and since I’m quite fond of him, this makes me happy :).  He’s an amazing, engaged father and our children are blessed.

We agree on the major parenting issues, so we haven’t experienced the strife that people assured us would come when we became parents and differing on things.  I’m sure things will come up, but we’ll handle them.  I think one of the biggest things that have changed is that we have to be super intentional (and fail often) at making quality time for each other.  We’re tired at the end of the day, and we sometimes have work or personal projects that “need” attention after the kids go to bed, and it’s easy to just go into survival mode and neglect tending to the most important human relationship in our home: each other. 

5)    What has been one of your greatest trials in your marriage and how did you all overcome it?

I’m going to say this and it may not seem believable to some, but I can’t think of a greatest trial in our marriage.  It’s been nearly idyllic, and some struggles that we’ve had have not been between each other, but things we’ve weathered together like our son needing a major skull surgery when we wasn’t even 4 months old. Or Nate quitting one job that he’d had for 7 years to take a new direction in business and the financial uncertainty that came during the interim.  These things were incredibly hard, but brought us closer together and closer to God because we literally were out of control and had to lean on each other and on the Lord to get us through. I felt like Nate was such a calming force during the months leading up to our son’s surgery.  I’m so grateful for that.

6)    What has been the most challenging aspect of being a wife?

Definitely learning to be selfless.  Half of the time now with two kids, it’s a miracle if I get a bit to eat for lunch.  I’ll be starting to fix something and then think of him upstairs, probably starving in his office and I’m thinking, “He won’t eat unless I fix something for him.”  (It’s true.)  And he probably doesn’t want three strawberries and a string cheese to get him through, so I buck up and make a real lunch when of course it’s more time consuming, but the look on his relieved face when I present him with a proper meal when he’s been working so hard for our family is worth it.

Things like this are common:  We get into bed, all snuggly and warm, and I’m super comfortable and he has a splitting headache.  He definitely needs Tylenol and an ice pack and he shouldn’t have to get up so I get it for him.  These are the times when it’d be so much easier to be selfish, but marriage is dying to yourself. Parenting is dying to yourself ad nauseum.  God’s using both of these to chip away at my innate desire to make my life comfortable and easy for ME.  I’m a work in progress, but I know that there is likely no better training ground for selflessness than living in a home with three other people. 😉

7)    How has being a wife changed you?

Wow.  This is a really good question.  Looking back on who I was before tying the knot and now, I’m a remarkably different person.  It may not be easy to sift through what happened through marriage/kids and through just the passage of time and maturing, but I’ll try.

I see my weaknesses and strengths now through a magnifying glass. There’s just no way to hide either of them when someone knows you so intimately and deeply.  With that knowing comes the desire to change the things that aren’t so pretty: selfishness, a judgemental spirit, a tendency to complain when things aren’t going well, or a short fuse when I’m frustrated.  Marriage has softened me and made me more aware of my heart condition: one that’s in constant need of repair.

Marriage has made me intensely grateful for a loving and strong husband.  I never even knew to ask God for certain characteristics in a spouse, but God went above and beyond giving them to me in Nate, and there’s no way I could miss that.  I don’t even understand how I snagged such a gem. 😉

Submission:  It never sounded like much to get excited about before marriage.  I have a strong will and have a tendency to feel like I’m right about a lot of things.  I won’t say that submission terrified me, but I definitely would never have guessed how freeing it is.  I love knowing that it’s really not about what I decide or want anymore: the guesswork is taken out of major decisions because I have a leader husband who listens to and consideres the merit of my take on things but ultimately makes the decisions. It’s fantastic, and I’m so glad God thought up the whole submission concept.  It’s almost like He knew how things work best. 😉

8)    What does date night look like for you?

These days when we want to go out at night, we have to have a sitter: usually my mom or sister.  We go to dinner or shopping (Home Depot counts as an exciting outing in our house! LOL) or we hang out by our favorite willow tree in Franklin.  One of our favorite dates this year was when we went to Chick-Fil-A and just dreamed about what we wanted out of this past year.  We made goals and shared our “what ifs.”  It was wonderful.  We also really enjoy Arrington Vineyards, but we usually end up there with the kids.  When we can’t get a sitter, we rent a movie on Apple TV or just put the kids to bed and eat a quiet dinner alone on the deck.  We do not do date night often enough, but we’ll hit that point where we realize it’s crucial (usually 2-3 weeks since we’ve had one) and just make it a priority.  This is an area we need to work on.

9)    What are the top three things/people that pull you away from or compete with your marriage? How do you deal with them?

Our kids.  Work.  And dare I say: Social Media?  Two of those are obvious and there’s not a lot we can do about them.  The third one I’ve just realized is trying to compete for our time – mostly when we get into the bedroom for the evening after a long day.  Hopping on Facebook is decompression and we’ll be lying there next to each other for 20 minutes, each scrolling through to see what’s happened in our friends’ lives, oblivious to the fine details of each other’s lives.  Some days we’re each doing our own thing  all day (sometimes under the same roof even) but haven’t had a meal together until dinner and I feel disconnected from him.  When we finally settle down, we still aren’t connecting, and it’s the stupid phones.  We used to have a rule: no phones in bed, but I don’t know what happened to it.  Maybe it’s time to resurrect it… Okay, it’s time to resurrect it.

10)    What role has community played in your marriage?

We are both people who like to learn from others’ successes and failures. We have been blessed with older and wiser people in our lives and we make it a point to spend time with them to glean what we can from them.  We also have a number of wonderful couple friends who lift us up and make us want to be better parents or spouses or entrepreneurs.  They energize us and help us see other ways of doing things.  We had a strong community group at our former church who prayed and invested in our lives.  We know the value of community and try to use it to its fullest potential.  I know that our marriage is stronger for it.

11)     What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before marriage?

Hmmm… I can’t think of anything right off on this one.  We asked a TON of questions from been there, done that couples, and feel like we got some really solid advice before taking the leap.

12)    If you have one final thought or piece of advice to share with current or future wives, what would it be?

Laugh a lot. 

With each other and sometimes at each other. 😉  My husband is so much better at lightening up a tense situation than me, but I’m getting there.  I can be so serious sometimes!  It’s really hard to be upset about your rough day when your husband stands on a desk to sing and dance to “I’m Too Sexy” until you almost pee yourself.  (This happened.)

The Wednesday Wife: Jennifer Ramsey

January 22, 2014 By: Shana2 Comments

If you’ve ever struggled with being “The Good Wife,” this is the Wednesday Wife for you.

It warms my heart to share this friend’s testimony with you because I’ve had the pleasure of walking through so much of this with her. We’ve done marriage together from the beginning, were friends before we met our men, and are even stronger friends now. I constantly thank God for blessing me with Jennifer’s friendship. It’s raw, real, deep and a true joy. I can always count on Jennifer to accept me where I am, listen to my garbage, and just sit there in it with me.

She’s only been married 3.5 years, but the wisdom she has gained as they’ve walked through trials is priceless. I pray that her transparent look into marriage is an encouragement to you, especially when you’re feeling like you aren’t ever “the good wife.”

Please remember that when we share like this we are leaving ourselves vulnerable. This is our chance to love on Jennifer. Please make sure to leave a comment thanking her for sharing or letting her know how her story has encouraged or comforted you.

Jennifer Ramsey married her husband, Rich, on July 18, 2010.

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1)    Tell us your courtship story. How did you meet and end up married?

Rich and I met in college on a trip where we ate breakfast together, were in a 7 car pile-up, and ironically don’t remember each other at all. Thankfully, about 4 years later, God brought our paths together again in Nashville through Fellowship Bible Church. We met shortly after I moved to Nashville while playing what I wanted to be a non-competitive but he wanted to be a competitive game of Ultimate Frisbee, but didn’t really get to know each other until about a year later when I asked him to help with a fundraiser for a mission trip I was going on. After quite a bit of accidental (but really very intentional) meetings over the next few months, we developed quite an affinity for each other. When Rich finally asked me out on an official date a few months in to our charades, I was thrilled!

From the very beginning of our relationship Rich was very clear that his intentions for dating were to find a wife. I really appreciated that his intentions were clear and out there, and I didn’t have to wonder whether he was ready for something serious or not. Our conversations could be meaningful and rich since I knew this wasn’t a guy who would mess with my emotions and heart. It didn’t take long (only about 2 months) for us to go home to meet the families… over Christmas none the less. I had never brought a boy home period, so my family knew something was up when he walked through the door. As my sister stated in the toast at our wedding, this was also the first boy who I didn’t immediately nitpick to pieces! After the holidays we both knew what our future held. Three short months later, Rich asked me to marry him with a beautiful song he had written me, a scrapbook of all the places we fell in love, and the perfect ring (except for that it was 2 sizes too big :). I left for Haiti two days later and returned to find that Rich had picked out our house! We got married 3 months later in the dead heat of summer. It was a beautiful day that was full of great memories despite the 100 degree weather and my mono infection that emerged just in time for our wedding.

2)    On your wedding day if someone had asked why you were getting married, what would you have said?

I was marrying my best friend.

He was man that could always make me laugh, could keep me grounded when I needed it, and loved me like Christ loved the church. The way he served me, adored me, and challenged me made me want to be a better person and a stronger follower of Christ.

3)    If someone asked you today why you have stayed married, what would you say?

In our 3 years of marriage I have loved having someone on my side through anything. I can come home and know that I am fully loved and accepted by God’s perfect match for me. I love that marriage forces us to be refined because nothing is hidden. All of your struggles are out there and you have to deal with them. What is beautiful about marriage is you are not alone in the fire.

4)    Do you have children? If so, how has having children affected your marriage?

We just had our first baby 2 months ago! She has changed a lot of our day-to-day activities for sure, but we are working really hard to make sure that our marriage is still the center of the family. I have fallen more in love with Rich as I watch him serve me in helping out when we are both exhausted and when I look at him play and cuddle with our little bundle of joy. Date nights are much more intentional these days and spontaneity seems to be a thing of the past for now. I appreciate that we have a great community around us that lovingly watches her for us so we can still have quality alone time on a regular basis.

5)    What has been one of your greatest trials in your marriage and how did you all overcome it?

The trials we have faced in the past 3 years have been outside forces attacking us.  I would say overall the biggest trial we have faced is my husband’s chronic back pain. It prevents him from doing things that he loves as well as things he views as his responsibility as a man. We have learned humility in asking for help from friends and family when we need to. We have learned to work our life and activities around what works for his pain. We have been blessed with friends who are so gracious and understanding about the small details. I have learned to be a servant. I am constantly amazed at how Rich goes through each day in so much pain, yet rarely complains or even speaks of it unless specifically asked. He does things for our family to serve us, even if it causes him pain. We have learned the pleasure of having a quiet night in where the couch is our favorite spot. We have most of all learned to trust that God knows what he is doing and will provide exactly what we need even if it doesn’t look like what we anticipated.

6)    What has been the most challenging aspect of being a wife?

I would say that the first 6 months of being a wife were tough because of my own expectations. I thought that to be a “good wife” you had to keep your house perfectly clean, always have the laundry done, have a delicious and healthy meal on the table each evening by 6 o’clock, look perfect at all times, and still work a full time job (at least till you had kids). HA! No one on earth can do that!

Every time I failed at living up to that ideal, I would get very down on myself, which meant I was always down on myself! Rich was always gracious and reminding me that he didn’t expect any of that, but it was hard for me to accept that I wasn’t everything I thought I should be. Thankfully my married friends were experiencing similar dilemmas. It meant everything to me that other women weren’t perfect either!

7)    How has being a wife changed you?

Before I got married I would have told you that one of my best qualities was serving people. As it turns out, I am much better at being lazy and asking Rich to serve me. Marriage has shown me more weaknesses than I care to admit. Thankfully, I have a husband that encourages me and never points out all of the flaws I see in myself. In turn, marriage has challenged me to become an encourager for my husband and a true servant for my family.

8)    What does date night look like for you?

Now it looks like a babysitter, dinner that I don’t cook, and a walk around the park. My favorite nights are those that I can spend relaxing with my husband in any setting where we really get to talk about important things… not just what is going on in the world, but what is going on inside of us. It doesn’t matter where that happens, just that it does.

9)    What are the top three things/people that pull you away from or compete with your marriage? How do you deal with them?

Work. I am a teacher which takes a lot more time and energy than you ever plan on allowing it to. I have learned that my job is not more important than my family and in keeping that balance, I have accepted the fact that I am not going to be teacher of the year 🙁

Volunteering. This one is tough because donating your time and energy is a good thing, but can be a bit overwhelming. There was a time early in our marriage when we decided the only way it was going to work to see each other AND volunteer was to do things together. So, we are either both doing it or neither of us do it.

Family. This is not so much of a time issue as it is an issue of who you run to in tough times. It is important to go to your spouse for all things and not your parents. A piece of advice here or there is great, but you and your spouse are a team — united by God to handle what comes. That means you don’t need to share every detail of your life with your family, especially if there is any chance it will reflect badly on your spouse. By going to your spouse first you show them that you trust and value them above others.

10)    What role has community played in your marriage?

Community has been a HUGE part of our marriage. We have been blessed with an abundance of genuine and transparent relationships with other married couples. Our community group of newlyweds was the best gift for our first year of marriage. To know that other people are going through various trials you gain confidence that you can make it through current or future trials. You also realize that you are not all that different in your thoughts, feelings, struggles, and joys. Most of all, the laughs that come out of that group can’t be replaced!

11)     What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before marriage?

I wish someone had told me to give myself a break when it came to being the “perfect wife.” I also wish someone would have told me that laundry doesn’t just double when you get married, it feels like it quadruples!

12)    If you have one final thought or piece of advice to share with current or future wives, what would it be?

Fight for your marriage.

There is nothing so big that God can’t overcome it. While Rich and I have been blessed that we have not been through a stage where it would have been easy to give up, we have walked with so many couples that have had BIG struggles. The world would have understood them walking away. I admire those couples for never allowing divorce to be discussed, but instead threw themselves whole-heartedly towards wise counsel and transparent relationships.

I know by their example that fighting for your marriage can be done and the relationship on the other side is a beautiful testimony of God’s promises.

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The Wednesday Wife: Robyn McKelvy

January 15, 2014 By: Shana6 Comments

I cannot contain my excitement! Not only is this the VERY FIRST Wednesday Wife, but this woman is INCREDIBLE! I’ve talked about her on the blog before. She’s my pastor’s wife, but more importantly a dear friend and mentor to me and so many other women. My marriage would not be what it is today without this woman challenging me and being transparent about her story. She is a mom of 10, amazing cook, and a speaker and blogger for Family Life and their Weekend to Remember conferences. Oh and she’s also a knock-your-socks-off author that will light a fire under you. Make sure to take a look at her website after reading the below.

Don’t forget that when we share like this we are leaving ourselves vulnerable. This is our chance to love on Robyn. Please make sure to leave a comment thanking her for sharing or letting her know how her story has encouraged or comforted you.

 

This is going to be good… so sit back, relax, and enjoy! 

Robyn McKelvy married her husband, Ray, on May 28, 1988  (25 years! Wahoo)!

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1)    Tell us your courtship story. How did you meet and end up married?

I met Ray one evening when I went to Calvary Bible College in Kansas City, Missouri to pick up my best friend, Vicky, for a volleyball game I was playing in.  Vicky asked me to meet her in the student union and I was early so, I went inside to wait (this was very unusual because I normally stopped outside and she would jump in my car).  Going into the union, there was this young black man, twirling around a pole singing, “I’m singing in the rain.”

Ray was that guy, and Vicky couldn’t wait to introduce him to me.  He was one of the most outstanding men at Calvary, and she was excited that he was in the student union.

I was not impressed.

We met later when I visited the church where he was youth pastor and minister of music.  He wasn’t there that evening.  Long story short, I ended up becoming the interim pianist until the church could find one.  We became great friends and soon thereafter we became an ‘item’.

2)    On your wedding day if someone had asked why you were getting married, what would you have said?

Ray and I dated on and off for almost two years.  We were older and hadn’t seen any marriages we wanted to pattern our marriage after so…we were very afraid.  Because of these break-ups in our engagement, I knew Ray was the one I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.  I missed his company when we broke off our engagement three times.  He was truly my best friend.  So, if someone had asked me on my wedding day why I was getting married, I would have said, “I get the privilege of spending the rest of my life, almost every day with my best friend.  Who wouldn’t run hard after that?”

3)    If someone asked you today why you have stayed married, what would you say?

Ray and I have been through many ups and many more downs (the loss of 7 children through miscarriage, the loss in youth through blood clots, suicide, etc., struggles financially through grad school to the point of being on welfare, etc). It’s so important to know who you are in Christ and that your spouse has grown in his relationship with Christ. I am benefitting from these events because his relationship with Christ was strengthened. I stay married because, it can’t get better than this.

4)    Do you have children? If so, how has having children affected your marriage?

We have 10 children. 

Without the miscarriages, we have had 8 biological children all by c-section.  Then God gave us one through adoption, and then he asked us to help in the raising of our teenaged niece.  Children have greatly propelled our marriage upward to being more united than had we had not had any.  When you have children, you realize the deep commitment it takes to Christ and to one another to really raise a Godly seed.  It cannot be done alone.  You need another to balance things out and help along the way.

5)    What has been one of your greatest trials in your marriage and how did you all overcome it?

One of our greatest trials came when Ray and I ended up on the opposite sides of a family dispute.  Because it was with one of his family members, I felt like an outsider and I felt like I had been kicked to the curb by Ray.  It took time and plenty of communication for us to get to where trust, for me, could be reestablished.

6)    What has been the most challenging aspect of being a wife?

Knowing how to communicate with your husband where you can talk about the areas in his life that you see needs a checkup and he not take it personally or feel defensive.  We are called to be a helper to our husbands and being the unique helper he needs is a delicate balancing act.  This is a challenge to every wife and one that must be passionately sought after to succeed in it.

7)    How has being a wife changed you?

Truly I don’t look out for my best interests anymore.  I truly look out for the best interest of Ray and our family.  Even though in a lot of areas I am still self-centered, I am a whole lot less self-centered because I am married than I would be if I had remained single.

8)    What does date night look like for you?

Over these 25 years date night has taken on many different looks.  Now, our date nights are date days.  We usually spend every Friday together (getting things done together whether it has to do with his job or not) and then we have lunch, dinner, and do a lot of talking.  We shop together (many times its home depot to get what we need for our home. Sometimes it’s for fun stuff for us).  But we have fought to make sure we keep spending time together a priority.

9)    What are the top three things/people that pull you away from or compete with your marriage? How do you deal with them?

First and foremost, children will always compete with your marriage and if you are not careful, your marriage and homelife will become child centered.

Secondly, ministry (Ray’s job) has been competition for our marriage and time for all of our life.

To deal with each, takes communication, and openness in trust so that you can express your feelings (man to a woman about her becoming child centered, and woman to a man about becoming job centered… especially when both want to do well in these capacities).

Mostly realizing that there will be times when there will be things that will compete for your attention and it HAS to take priority over your marriage and family BUT, it has to get back in its proper place as quickly as possible.  Ex.  When you have a newborn, there will be a period of time when mom is more concerned with the things of the newborn than her marriage (breastfeeding, recovering from labor and delivery, getting sleep, etc.  and for ex. Beginning a new church (set up for ministry involves TONS of meetings, preparation for sermons, getting and developing a leadership team, meeting with ALL of the peeps who have questions etc).

10) What role has community played in your marriage?

There is no way to make it without community.

When the things that compete for your marriage get way out of whack… you have to have those that remind you that something is awry.  You have to have those that know you enough to tell you the truth, laugh with, play with and make sure you understand the importance of life and that it is not monetary success.

11) What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before marriage?

That life is short and to spend more time making memories that count.  That kids grow up fast so spend time with them and make sure they understand that God is their source and not you.  I really wish someone had told me to make ministry WITH my family a priority.  It grows you closer than anything else.

12) If you have one final thought or piece of advice to share with current or future wives, what would it be?

Run had after Christ and everything else will fall into place.

But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.  Matt. 6:33

 

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New Series: The Wednesday Wife

January 7, 2014 By: Shana2 Comments

You know that moment… maybe it was with a stranger in line at the grocery store, or while enjoying tea with your best friend – cuddled up on her couch. It doesn’t matter with who or where you were, but you probably remember it well. It’s that moment when she opened up and told you truthfully, transparently how she really is. Not that sugarcoated crap we tell people in passing at church on Sunday, but the brutal, raw truth. And when she did that, when she chose vulnerability over saving face, something awesome happened. That piece of loneliness in you that had remained far too long, that thing in your life that you thought no one could possibly understand, it began to melt away as you realized…

YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

There’s someone else out there that knows your pain/guilt/frustration/hurt/anger. In that moment, you felt a little less lonely, and a lot more connected to her and the world around you. She felt a little more free and a lot more loved because not only did someone take the time to listen to her, but you embraced her vulnerability. Her pain had power through transparency.

Now that’s Love Truthfully.

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Enter The Wednesday Wife. A place where women experience freedom and love through sharing their stories transparently. A place where women find themselves a little less alone, a little more connected, and maybe even a little wiser after reading another woman’s story.

I’ve had the pleasure of knowing some incredible women that have chosen vulnerability and shared their story with me and with you… and it all starts next Wednesday. Trust me, you won’t want to miss any of these so make sure to sign up for email alerts.

Just to give you a taste… here are the questions I asked each of these women.

1)   Tell us your courtship story. How did you meet and end up married?
2)   On your wedding day if someone had asked why you were getting married, what would you have said?
3)   If someone asked you today why you have stayed married, what would you say?
4)   Do you have children? If so, how has having children affected your marriage?
5)   What has been one of your greatest trials in your marriage. How did you all overcome it?
6)   What has been the most challenging aspect of being a wife?
7)   How has being a wife changed you?
8)   What does date night look like for you?
9)   What are the top three things/people that pull you away from or compete with your marriage?  How do you deal with them?
10) What role has community played in your marriage?
11) What’s one thing you wish someone had told you before marriage?
12)  If you have one final thought or piece of advice to share with current or future wives, what would it be?

 I look forward to sharing these stories with you starting next week. If you want to be a Wednesday Wife, let me know if the comments. 

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Hi! I'm a semi-newlywed living in a small town outside of Nashville with my husband, Casey, our baby boy, teen niece, and hyperactive dog, Minny. I'm a new mom and marketing consultant at BeEngaging.com that loves Jesus and won't eat anything with 4 legs. I talk about marriage, pregnancy, parenting and everything in between. I believe real growth only happens through transparency. Join me on the journey. Read More…

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