So Casey and I officially graduated from counseling a couple weeks ago. I guess it’s not really graduation since we will definitely be going back, but only as needed. In the meantime, to make sure that we continue building emotional intimacy and focusing on “staying in the puddle,” we’re attending a marriage class through Fellowship Bible Church.
It’s us and about 5 or 6 other couples, 1 therapist and Dr. Sue Johnson. Sue may not be physically leading the class, but she’s right beside us as we go through her book and DVD series. Honestly her British accent is hard to listen to at times, but she’s one smart cookie. She started this stuff called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and it’s pretty awesome! If you’ve ever wanted insight into emotional connection, attachment, relational conflict or those never-ending argumentative cycles you get caught in, this is the book for you.
Casey and I have learned so much already and have laughed at how much we resemble the couples in the video. Of course all the couples in the video and in the class are older, some much older, and all with children. The first class was enough for me to push having kids back another year. It seems the rumors are true. When you have kids, especially more than 1, it’s tough to connect, balance your time and keep from getting stuck in a routine of living separately in the same house. Marriage is hard enough already if you ask me.
I’ll try and keep you all updated on our progress as we go along, but definitely pray that any of you that are feeling relationally disconnected from your spouse go out and read this book. It’s like gaining an entire new perspective on the dynamics of relational connection.